Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
I wonder when you are staring at my soul if you knew the parts of me were the parts of you.
Can we get anywhere with love without looking at our reflections?
I have chosen to ignore my mirrors and have suffered needlessly. The mirrors are all around us calling us to look. You may see a person and think, “They are so inspiring and extraordinary.” This reflects you. To have a person come into your life that is angry all the time is reflection of a part back to you. I would rather die than not know what it looks like to open my heart and soul to another human being.
To love another, all parts, the good and the bad, the sad and the happy, the ups and the downs.
The perfections and the flaws.
The truth and the lies.
These reflect me.
Why wouldn’t I love it all?
Because if I choose not too to love it all, every part of my reflection I don’t love myself wholly and completely.
If you think there is something wrong with your relationship because you have sadness half the time you are missing out on the big picture, because that’s the way it’s designed. The sadness just means your buttons are being pushed and you’re seeing the parts of yourself that you haven’t loved yet.
Buttons are nothing but lopsided perceptions, and people come into your life as teachers to point them out to you. The ones who push your buttons are your greatest teachers. If you can bring your lopsided perceptions back into balance, you’ll appreciate them as your teacher; if you don’t, you’ll blame them for being a button pusher. As you grow in wisdom, you’ll learn to embrace and love others for where they are, looking for the benefits they offer you and knowing that they represent parts of you that you’ve buried or disowned. Wisdom means thanking others for bringing to your awareness those areas where you’ve lived and not loved, and for being grateful that they’ve given you this opportunity to love.
Dr. John F. Demartini-The Breakthrough Experience
What are your teachers telling you that you need to learn to become more whole?
It is most likely a discovery of what we don’t love about ourselves and the opportunity to learn to love it. The button pushers are a perfect mirror of your inner relationship with yourself and the beliefs you have acquired about life and love. To best understand the law of reflection is to think of it in these three categories: your beliefs, your qualities, and your actions. When I began looking at the law of reflection I questioned this theory, “Of course I don’t behave like the people that annoy me.” The more I look inside myself the more I realized that everyone you meet is your mirror and you can learn to understand yourself. We can only be annoyed or triggered by something we have experienced ourselves. If you find yourself judging or criticizing someone it is more than likely the traits you don’t like about them are in you. When you are triggered by someone’s personality you will have a negative reaction, if so this means that there is part of you that is ready to be healed if you allow it.
Typically, is an unresolved past issue. For example; you are have a constant need to prove to others that you are, “right.” You will attract people who strongly disagree with you because they also have the need to convince others to see it from their perspective. In addition, if you dislike people that are controlling, most likely you dislike the controlling tendencies within yourself.
The people you interact with are showing you who you are and providing you with an opportunity to love yourself. The mission is to discover what we don’t love and learn to love it.
Some questions you can ask yourself:
When you feel an emotion ask what is being reflected back at me?
What does your reaction to a person say about you?